When You Feel Alone in Motherhood | Grace-Filled Mom Podcast | Episode 3

If you’ve ever felt isolated, unseen, or like no one truly understands what you’re carrying, this episode is for you. Motherhood can feel lonely—even when you’re surrounded by people. The emotional load, the decisions, the late nights, the constant giving… it can leave you feeling empty and alone.

In this episode, I’m sharing gentle, grace-filled encouragement to remind you that you’re not walking this journey by yourself. We’ll talk about why so many moms feel this way, how to reach out for support, and how God meets you in the quiet places where your heart feels most fragile.

You were never meant to do motherhood alone.
 And you are more seen, loved, and supported than you think.

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Transcript

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Friend, have you ever been surrounded by people and still felt completely alone? Today we're talking about a kind of loneliness most moms feel, but rarely admit, and the comfort God brings right into those moments. Hey sweet friend and welcome to the Grace-Filled Mom podcast. I'm Amy B. Crowe, a mom, author, and someone who understands firsthand what it feels like to have kids pulling you in different directions, to juggle all the practices and appointments, and to pour from an empty cup more days than you'd like to admit. This is your space to exhale, your space to feel seen. Your space to remember that you're not alone and you're not failing. Every week we'll talk about the real life motherhood that happens in the car line, in the kitchen, between homework and dinner, on the sidelines of yet another sport, or in those quiet moments when you finally catch your breath. My hope is simple that each episode fills you up, encourages your heart and reminds you that God is walking with you through every messy, busy, beautiful season of motherhood. I'm so glad you're here. Let's grow in grace together. What happens when you feel alone in motherhood? I want to start today by sharing something that surprised me in my own motherhood. A kind of loneliness I didn't expect, and honestly, I didn't even recognize at first. There was a season when my kids were involved in several activities: baseball, track, dance, all the things. And you know how it goes when your kids are in a sport or an activity, you naturally end up with this group of moms that you see all the time. You sit together at practices, you talk between heats at track meets, you cheer from the bleachers. You swap stories about homework and busy schedules, and without even realizing it, they become your people for that season. There's comfort in those familiar faces. They understand that part of your life, and it becomes its own little rhythm. But then your child decides to try something new or they switch teams, or one sport ends and another begins, or the whole group ages out and moves on, and suddenly, almost overnight that little circle disappears. Not because anything went wrong, not because anyone did anything hurtful. Not because of any one thing, just because life shifted the way it always does in motherhood. I remember walking into a brand new practice, new faces, new routines, moms who already seem to know each other. And feeling that quiet ache of starting over. That awkward middle school feeling of where do I fit? Even though I was a grown woman. It was such a strange mix. Grateful for the change in my child's life, excited for them, but quietly grieving this little community that had come and gone without warning. And that's the part of motherhood that no one warns you about. Your child's transitions become your own transitions. Your child's new season becomes your new season. Sometimes starting over socially again, feels incredibly lonely. If you've ever been the new mom on the bleachers or the mom sitting alone in a crowded practice, or the mom watching other moms laugh together while you're still trying to find your place; friend, you're not imagining that loneliness and you're not the only one. I have been there truly. Today I want to talk about the kind of loneliness that moms don't talk about. Motherhood comes with a unique kind of loneliness, one that most moms feel, but rarely talk about. It's the loneliness of being needed constantly, but not always understood. It's the loneliness of being surrounded by noise, but feeling emotionally isolated. It is also the loneliness of being the one who holds everyone else's feelings, while no one is holding yours. When friendships shift because of moves, changing sports, new schools, new jobs, or different schedules, it adds another layer that's so rarely acknowledged. Some friendships fade. They're only there for a season. Some circle back later and some simply can't stay the same. And even if you understand why, it still leaves a quiet sadness behind. Loneliness doesn't always look like being physically alone. Sometimes loneliness looks like showing up, smiling and pretending that you're fine. While inside you feel like no one sees you. But friend, nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way. You aren't failing at friendship. You aren't too much or not enough. You are simply human and your heart was created for connection. So I want to talk to you about how God can meet you in the lonely places, in the places where you feel like no one gets you, no one sees you. You're by yourself. God sees you. One of the most beautiful things that God has done in my life is meet me in those quiet, lonely spaces, the ones where I felt unseen or unsure of where I even belonged. I remember one morning after a drop off, we've talked about the carline drop off; I was sitting alone in my car and just whispering to myself,"Lord, I don't think anyone really knows how hard I'm trying." And in that quiet moment, I felt such a gentle whisper back."I see you." Not the polished version, not the public version, not the holding it all together version. He saw the tired, stretched-thin, trying so hard version of me. Psalms 34:18 says,"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted." And lonely seasons are their own kind of heartbreak. They break your sense of belonging. They break your familiar rhythms. They break your confidence in where you fit. But here's the hope. God never avoids broken places. He moves toward them. Isn't that refreshing? He sits with you in the moments that you don't talk about. He sees the effort that no one notices. He listens when your heart feels tangled. He honors the weight that you carry, even the emotional weight. You are not invisible to him. Not even for a moment. Friendship does not have to be big to be meaningful. Let's talk about that for a minute. Here's the encouraging part. Loneliness doesn't always require a big solution. Sometimes it just needs a real one. Friendship and motherhood doesn't have to be large or loud. Some of the most meaningful connections are a quick text.'Thinking about you today. Just four simple words, but they can change the whole direction of someone else's day just by you texting those four words or when you get that kind of text. A short conversation in a parking lot, a friend who checks in once a month but never forgets you, a mom who smiles your way because she gets it. How many times have you done that with another mom? You don't even know what kind of support you just gave her. Just with that smile, that knowing smile from mom to mom. A heart to heart during a walk or coffee. It doesn't have to be a big thing. Small moments matter. Small connections count. You don't need 10 new friends, you just need one or two real ones. And sometimes the first step is simply being brave enough to say hi, even after a thousand transitions. So let's talk about some practical encouragement when you have those lonely seasons. I'm going to give you some gentle steps to walk through loneliness with grace. We love grace. Number one: talk to God honestly. For instance, just say a quick prayer."Lord, I miss feeling connected. Please bring the right people into my life." I've prayed that prayer and God answered it in seasons of my life where I felt lonely, where I felt vulnerable, where I felt like I just wasn't being seen. Where I felt like I was on the outside looking in. I felt like all these people had these groups and I was by myself. I asked God to bring me friends into my life, and He did. And it was the neatest connection. It was so. God, that's all I can describe it as. It was Him. He listened and He answered that prayer, and it's been amazing. I'm still valuing those friendships and pouring into those friendships because God brought them my way and they're treasured and they're so valuable. Number two. Sorry. I get sidetracked when I talk about that because this is very important to me because this is the stage I went through and it can be very lonely, so I get it. Number two, reach out just to one person. It doesn't have to be a big conversation, just a simple check-in. Just send someone a text. Reach out to them in some way that doesn't have to be big, but just reach out to one person. Figure out who that one person is. If someone comes to mind, reach out to them. You never know what kind of difference that can make to them and what they're going through. Number three: notice the people that God places around you. Sometimes new friendships appear in unexpected places. Sometimes it can be a friend that resurfaces after years that you haven't seen in forever. So just notice the people that God places around you, and number four: give yourself grace. Loneliness is not a failure. It's a signal that your heart was made for connection. You desire that fellowship, that connection that we all need. There's nothing wrong with that, so give yourself some grace. I want to encourage you, if you've been walking through motherhood, feeling unseen or unsure of where you fit, I want you to know this: you matter. Your heart matters, and your longings matter. God sees every quiet effort that you make. He sees the emotional load that you carry. He sees the tears that you wipe before anyone notices. He is with you, not distantly, but closely. You are not alone, not now, and not ever. And I'm cheering for you every step of the way. I want you to find those close connections and they're there, I promise you. Pray for them. Seek them out, invest in them, and then thank God for them when He answers you. Thank you for spending this time with me today on The Grace-Filled Mom Podcast. If this episode encouraged your heart, would you pass it along to another mom who might need the reminder? And remember, friend, you don't have to do this motherhood journey alone. God sees you, He loves you, and His grace is holding you every step of the way. I'll see you next time.